So, you’re trying to organise your invitations... what do you need to put on them?
Ten things to consider telling your wedding guests on your invite:
1. WEDDING DETAILS
It may sound silly to say some of this but most likely you’ve not done this before so it’s always good to start somewhere! Date, time, and location of the wedding ceremony and reception. It useful to included the full address and postcode of your venue, as not everyone will be local.
2. RSVP DETAILS
The term "RSVP" comes from the French expression répondez s'il vous plaît, meaning "please respond”. You need to provide a date that guests have to reply by. This will usually be a few weeks before you need to confirm with the venue. You can ask your guests to reply to an address (with postcode) or increasingly commonly by email or text.
3. WEDDING HOSTS
The traditional wording was that the Brides parents host the wedding (as they were paying) e.g. ‘Mr & Mrs would like to invite you to the marriage of their daughter’. More often now it is Bride and Groom hosting and paying for the wedding, e.g. Lindsay & David would like to invite you to their wedding’. Also a more modern way to include everyone is to say ‘Together with their families’.
4. RSVP CARDS
It’s not set in stone that you have to send an RSVP card with your invitation. If you would like your guests to RSVP to a wedding website, then you obviously wouldn’t need to include one. If you do want a more traditional response but don’t want to send one then I certainly don’t mind buying a little card if I’m to be a guest at a wedding, as I’ll take any excuse to go into a lovely stationery shop, but others might not get round to it, ever! So if you do include an RSVP card then there’s no excuse for your guests not reply as you’ve made it easy for them. If you are feeling super organised/generous then you can address the envelope and put a stamp on it too!
5. ACCOMMODATION DETAILS
you may have worked out a deal with your venue that your guests get a discounted rate or need to tell people the best alternative accommodation in the area. It can also be useful to give taxi numbers as some of your guests might not be local and won’t know where to book a taxi.
It may be useful to give your guest the best way to get to your venue. This might be how far away the nearest train station is or the last few turns into your secluded Hotel grounds as the post code for Sat Nav doesn’t quite get it right.
7. TRANSPORT DETAILS
It’s becoming more common that couples are providing transport to and from the venue for their guests. You will need to tell them where the pick-ups and drop-offs are and at what time. You can ask them how many seats they will need on the bus on your RSVP card. If you are asking for contribution then let them know how to get the money to you.
8. GIFT POEMS
as traditional Gift List are in decline it’s more common for you to ask your guests for vouchers or a cash contribution to your honeymoon, but it can feel a bit cheeky. A nice way to do it is phrase it a short poem. I have plenty to choose from! They can be as simple as:
‘As wedding gifts are bulky and we’re a little short on space, Some money would be the ideal gift to help us buy our place!’
9. MENU OPTIONS
More and more venues are keen to know the menu choices and numbers in advance so you’ll need to ask your guests. You don’t always have to give them the whole menu, just the ‘beef’, ‘chicken’ or ‘vegetarian option’. This way you wont give the game away but you’ll know your guests preferences. It’s also useful to ask if anyone has any special dietary requirements, like Gluten Free or Vegan.
10. NO CHILDREN
It’s best to be upfront and tell your guests that there will be no children at your wedding. Sometimes this is down to personal preference or it may be that your venue can’t accommodate under 18’s. Telling your guests outright means that there will be no confusion as to whether children are included in the invitation, which then allows them to find a baby sitter as soon as possible. Often just reminding them that you would like them to have a stress free day of dinner, drinks, and dancing can do the trick!
Hopefully this will give you a good place to start with your invitations! But should need help, please just drop me a message and we'll get your stationery sorted!